Our lovely friendÂ Tiffany MooreÂ wants you to die happy. She’s a dream-powered freight train (aka a certified life coach) and she loves to push your buttons and get you to figure out how the heck to get the most out of your one precious life. She also likes to ask questions. BIG questions.Â She recently asked us to participate in herÂ Big Questions extravaganzaâ€”and sent us a slew of thought provoking questions. The one we gravitated to?
DOTTIE:Â Oh, what to pick! There are so many plans swimming around in my head. Lots of big ideas but also just a slightly better version of the way life already is. Here is what I’m thinking!
STAYING COZY.Â Like Dorothy, I am a true believer in there being no place like home. So, I probably see myself still living in the Bay Area because I love my friends and family and living in the Bay Area. I wouldn’t mind a different house with bigger bedrooms and closets and maybe a bigger backyard so I could raise chickens and bees, but I adore my neighbors to the point where I’d rather just stay put. I would like a very nice vacation house on a lake somewhere back east in Maine or maybe up in Oregon or Washington.
CONTINUE POSITIVE CHANGES.Â I did just make some serious and amazingly life changes that if I had been asked this question a year ago, I would have included something along the lines of working from home with clients that I love and who respect my work.Â And I’m very lucky to be on the road to accomplishing that right now. Although I’ve only been working from home for less than four months, it has already had a profoundly positive effect on my life. A lot of stress induced issues are gone. I sleep much better. My eye tick is gone. I think my relationship with Eric is sweeter and most importantly, I feel my time with the Peach is amazing. Watching her personality unfurl over the past three years has been amazing. I’d also love to add another little one to our family mix, and without the job stress, I know I at least have a better fighting chance at it now.
I’m still trying to get the balance right, and get into a better routine.Â I have all of these projects around the houseâ€”crafty as well as organizational that I sometimes just can’t seem to focus on doing.Â But I guess that is just life, right?Â There will always be that one project you wanted to finish.
WORK IT OUT.Â Speaking of routine, I’d like to add regular exercise to my daily routine.Â This goes beyond trying to fit into a smaller size vintage dress, but just feeling better.Â Be able to keep up with the Peach and help lead her into a healthy lifestyle for her future. Health is wealth!
GOING GLOBAL. In five years I see myself expanding my career to include more teaching and lecturing. And have that lecturing career be an international one. Why can’t I teach social media strategies in London?Â My recent trip to Paris unlocked a life-long dream to do more traveling. And I know it can be done. I’d love to take an international trip once a year for the rest of my life! Oh, the list of places I’ve wanted to go is so longâ€”Sweden, Prague, Belgium, Japan, New Zealand and so so so many more.Â I also see myself doing more national and local travel with my wee family.Â I’d love to do more camping, my road trips, more fun.Â I just have to sometimes get out of the day to day and plan some adventures.
In summary, I see myself in five years with a very strong work/life balance as a consultant, allowing me to spend time with my family and friends, travel internationally, and focus on living a healthy life full of fun exercise and time for my creative crafty outlets. OK, your turn Alix!
ALIX: Â Wow, those are great lady. I hope you reach them all! So, hmmm, where do I see myself in 5 years? Gosh, I feel like soooo many things will happen in the next five years. The biggest thing for me is that little Wolfie will be 13 years old (ahhhhh!) and I think that will be a major difference in our life. I have to say because of this, my take is slightly different from Dottie’s….I too love our house and adore our neighbors, but as much as I love it, I actually hope we are living some place entirely! I’m a little scared to move, but I think change is always a great catalyst. While I love my little life, there are definitely things I hope to accomplish in the next five years. Here’s how I’d like to see things morph and shift…keep in mind, I’m taking “money no object” to heart. This is the most glamorous edition of my future dreams!
LIVING IN A NEW HOUSE. Our house is pretty great, but seeing us in a slightly bigger place is a goal of mine. I really want a great bedroom for Wolfie…his space right now is pretty small. I’d also love a guest room for when people come to visit (Hi mom!)…a bigger back yard for Sammy…a tree-lined street with a sidewalk so we can actually have trick-or-treaters (we don’t have a sidewalk in our neighborhood). And lots and lots of big windows and sunlight! If we could bring our next-door neighbors along with us, even better!
LET’S HIT THE ROAD.Â I’m lucky I actually get to spend a ton of time with my guys. We love our weekend outings. BUT, I want to make sure we make time to travel further. With grandparents all over the country, Wolfie is the world’s best little travelerâ€”so I’m not sure why we haven’t gone to more distant places. I really want to be adventurous and expose my boy to the world. We need to go back to Germany (where my mother is from) and I really want to visit Scotland (where Greg’s grandparents are from) AND…..I want to lounge. I think relaxing vacations are so important. We need more of those! I hope to carve out more time for special family vacations and rather than wasting money on silly stuff, setting up a real vacation fund. Even if we can’t make it to exotic locales, just exploring the country together is something I know we will all enjoy.
A LITTLE SPACE FOR ME TO WRITE. I have a hard time visualizing where my career will be in 5 years. Mostly because I’m not sure what I want. I love what I do, and part of me wants to continue doing exactly what I’m doing! Then another part of me thinks I’d love to be doing something totally different. Growing Modern Kiddo into more of an official career?? I’m not sure. What I do know is IÂ love writing. And one thing on my perpetual To Do list is writing a children’s book. One for younger kids. And a young adult book. I have something I’m really excited about brewing and when five years rolls around I hope that this project is well into it’s second or third phase. Also, right now I write with my lappy on my lap, or I sit at our dining room table. I think carving out a special office space for me to focus on work and writing would be amazing and a great way to reach my goal.
LET ME ENTERTAIN YOU.Â Before Wolfie was born we were very social and had little dinner parties and people over all the time. When he was a toddler, things like bed time and naps meant we didn’t do as much entertaining. It’s something I love to do, and we have such wonderful friends I need to get back on it. Regular little gatherings are so much fun and can be simple and easy peasyâ€”just a bottle of wine and good food and good company. Â Of course it wouldn’t hurt to have a swank back yard to do it all it.
FRESH CHOICE.Â Finally, Greg and I are always talking about improving our diet. He’s much better about it than I am but I really want to get healthy. Hopefully trimming down is a by-product, but I’m not getting any younger and improving my diet and adding in exercise is something I reeeeeally want to see happen in the coming year (and years!).
So whew! That’s it. Now we have to ask, where do you think you will be in 5 years? (especially with money as no object!) Do you have any plans percolating? Any wishes? I leave you with one little piece of advice:
Thanks to our girl Tiffany Moore who always believes in asking the Big Questions – the kind that help you decipher your (actual) dreams â€” and (actually) fulfill Â â€˜em.Â Find out who else is answering The Big Questions today (9 other lovely bloggers!) andÂ how you can win your own Big Question session here!
11 thoughts on “The Big Questions: Where do you see yourself in five years?”
Oh wow…I might be moved to TEARS answering this. 5 years ago my husband went back to school. He finished his second bachelors 2 years ago…and has yet to find another job. I am not at all where I expected to be 5 years ago. But I can still dream.
In 5 years I hope we have moved to Nashville, TN, closer to my husband’s parents. I hope he has found his calling as a CPA and is finally earning his worth.
I want to be much farther in my writing career, focusing on my own things, and maybe with a book or two out there.
I want to be in a bigger home with a wonderful yard for my four kids to play in. I want the outdoors to be a much bigger part of their lives.
I want to feel secure financially, and able to plan for the future.
I hope, by then, my children will have seen the ocean. (That did it. Tears.)
I hope I will have lost these 70 lbs and have maintained that weightloss for 4 years 🙂
I hope I will really have organization and homemaking down pat, and really be able to enjoy my MCM objects 🙂
Katherine this is wonderful…..and you know what? I think these are ALL do-able!!! Maybe not everything will happen, but have them as a focus (and even helping you prioritize) is so important. The one thing I struggle with is location…I am dying to be closer to my family but I love where we live…some days I want to move. Some days I think “i should just be happy here. It’s glorious.”
The ocean is a beautiful goal. You have two gorgeous coasts to chose from….I can’t wait to see how it all unfolds. keep me posted!!! xoxox
MamaCake, thank you for answering our question–what a beautiful response–even I got a little verklempt when I read your comment about your children seeing the ocean. I’ll trade you the ocean for some help with organization-heehee!!!
I’m gobsmacked every day by the changes I’ve made in my life in the last nine months–moving back East to Pittsburgh, buying the most perfect house (!!) with a backyard and guest room and woods and a quiet street. It’s astounding to me every day.
Within five years, both girls will be in school–sob! joy!–and I hope I’ll have continued growing in my role with my current company, which is a wonderful place to work. By then I hope I’ll have been more integrated into life in Pittsburgh, attending more events, being involved with groups that interest me. I want to have time back to sew and cook; basically getting bits of my life back from diaper-changing and bottle-warming!
And I want to start traveling, too. Not big-time travelling–the girls will still be too young for us to be carting them on planes, no thanks!–but I want to start camping again, and traveling to places I never went to when I was a kid, growing up here: Montreal. Niagara Falls. Nashville, Cape Cod, Maine, New Orleans, the Outer Banks. There’s so much to see of America, and I haven’t seen enough of it! And maybe a yearly jaunt to Europe for just my husband and I, and stashing the kids with my parents.
Most important, I really want to be still excited and loving the choice we made to leave the beloved Bay Area. So far I’ve felt like I’m wavering between culture shock and a 24/7 vacation. But I feel like I can help change things here and moving Pittsburgh forward, so I also want to be politically and socially active. I always felt like I was spitting into the wind with politics in the Bay Area–most everyone agreed with me–but I think I can make a difference here!
You should be gobsmacked! There are always trade offs, and I’m sure you miss your old cosmopolitan stomping grounds, but there is something so wonderful about raising kids near family. And lets face it, cheaper cost of living? That’s one stress I wouldn’t mind being taken off my plate!! You might not want to fly to Europe with the girls, but don’t be afraid of shorter jaunts. As they get older, flying gets much easier. And now that you can watch movies/videos on planes (either via laptops or ipads etc) flying is a piece of cake! Truly! xo
Dottie, Alix! I am blown away by your answers both in how vivid they both are and how real they already seem – it’s just a matter of time until you’re there, I know it. Thank you for sharing and for bringing so much life to this question!
Oh thanks so much for having us participate! This was fun….and I was already thinking about more QUESTIONS I want to ask and answer on my Bart ride this morning!!
Hooray!! It’s addictive, isn’t it?
Amazing post ladies, so fun to read about all your plans. I’ve been skirting that very question for month’s. Need to take the time to sort through my own goals.
And Alix, when you’re ready to write that children’s book, call/email/tweet me! I’m looking for the same opportunity – from an illustration point of view!
I loved this post and both of your responses. I want to reread it and think through it for myself. I will, too. I love this kind of exercise, the visualization can be so meaningful. I
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